For non-intact family, the control and redress will become more difficult. Thereby leading to an imbalance in the process of psychological development of children
Feelings of loss or being outcasts
When family breakdown happens, children are compulsory to live with one of them. Whether at any age, children will also have the sense of loss and deprivation in terms of spiritual care. Worse, she or he may feel outcast if the remaining parent does not frequently visit her/ him. Games or habit before with a parent will be not available, instead, there will be a sense of emptiness and inadequacy in the immaturity of young soul.
Erratic character and become aggressive
There is no coincidence that the psychophysiology development of any child will need to have the nature of education of parents (each person keeps a strict role and appease certainly). With family which has only a father or mother, control and redress will become more difficult. Thereby leading to an imbalance in the process of psychological development of children. The visible consequence is that they become aggressive, combative, while other children may be shy.
Have a negative impact on children’s studies
For many families, the divorce may entail the children to move to other school. If the children are lucky not to transfer and get used to the teachers, new friends, the inadvertent teases from peers about the status of “missing father” or “absent mother” can make children afraid to go to school.
Additionally, the subjects may consult from former parent are also interrupted. This affects to children’s education quality. According to statistics of the National Survey of Children, children in divorced families, an average of 15% of children are bullied at school; 13% of babies will dropouts and 60% of children will decline their study versus academic ability of their parents.
What should parents do with the kids?
Before the decisions of adults, children also suffer from certain mental damage. To minimize the damage to children, you should:
- Frank but gentle. Let children know the status and divorce reasons of their parents.
- Consulting children’s opinion whether children want to live with dad or mom and absolutely respect that decision.
- The remaining parent should regularly visit and provide well.
- Avoid any variation of daily living. Let everything goes normal like nothing ever happened. Gradually, children will get used to that atmosphere.